Or, are you both? Of course all the other elements need to also fall into place but the first aspect is physical attraction. Ask any women with a thick booty and she will tell you a big butt drives some guys sexually nuts. With one thing and another happening and time slipping away so quickly, it's not unusual to find that many BBW re-joining the dating market may have forgotten some of the techniques and protocols of attracting someone to be interested in them to date, or as a life-partner.